Despite what you might have seen in movies or read in books, threesome experience is not as common as it may seem. In fact, a 2017 study found that only 13% of heterosexual adults reported having had a threesome.
If you are in a committed relationship, it is important to make sure that both parties are on board with the idea of a threesome before proceeding.
Establishing Ground Rules
A threesome can be a thrilling experience, but it can also turn into a nightmare if the people involved don’t communicate clearly and establish some basic rules before the sex begins. Couples need to talk about their boundaries and set a safe word that allows either of them to stop the sexual act if they feel uncomfortable, even if the other person is enjoying themselves.
You’ll also need to discuss where you will have the threesome, who is going to penetrate first, whether or not there will be any intercourse, and what position you will all be in once things start getting raunchy. Once you have established the rules, both couples should agree to follow them strictly to ensure everyone has a safe and satisfying time.
It’s a good idea to talk about jealousy in advance too, especially if one partner is already in a monogamous relationship. If the jealousy gets out of hand, it can ruin the whole experience for everyone.
Honest Communication
It’s important to keep communication open and empathetic during the threesome experience. Often, feelings of insecurity or jealousy may surface, and it’s important to talk through them and to respect each other’s boundaries.
If you’re in a relationship, it’s also good to make sure that threesomes are something that you both genuinely want to do. Be honest about your reasons for wanting a threesome. Is it to explore your bisexuality? Is it to add excitement and variety to your relationship? Or are you doing it to please your partner?
During the threesome, it’s also important to give each other attention. Stripping and sexing is great, but you can also play with each other’s backs, butts and thighs. And don’t forget about tongue nipples and necks! If you’re planning on penetration, it’s best to discuss it with your partner beforehand. Otherwise, it could lead to unexpected insecurity and hurt feelings. After the experience, it’s also a good idea to take time to reconnect solely with your partner.
Having a Good Time
Whether you are a couple looking for a unicorn to add spice to your sexual lives, or you want to introduce sex toys to your existing relationship, threesomes can be very enjoyable. Remember to set the mood by turning on some sexy music, lighting some candles, and making sure that you have enough lube to make everyone happy. Then relax and enjoy the sexy action!
Be sure to check in with each other periodically and discuss the pleasure that you are all feeling. This communication can help prevent jealousy from taking hold and can also help you decide if threesomes are something that you want to include in your sexual life on a regular basis or just once in a while. You should also create a safe word that anyone can use to signal when they are no longer comfortable. Then you can stop the action and regroup. This will ensure that everybody is happy and fulfilled.
Keeping it Safe
It’s essential that you and your partner discuss what physical rules you want in place to ensure the safety of your threesome. Some couples have a no-penetration rule, while others prefer to watch-but-touch. Whatever your rules, it’s important that you set them before the sexual encounter begins.
If you’re in a relationship, it’s also a good idea to come up with a safe word that either partner can use when they are no longer comfortable. This way, they don’t have to put up with anything that makes them uncomfortable.
Remember to keep your lube and condoms close at hand to avoid any surprises. It’s always a good idea to spend some time talking and flirting before the threesome begins, and to try out different positions to find what works best for everyone. If you can get the right mood and position, your threesome experience will be a success. And, of course, don’t forget to have fun!