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Lesbian sex can involve any form of sexual activity between two women. It can be oral, manual, orgasmic. It can also involve a variety of objects, including sex toys and dildos.
Manual Stimulation
Manual stimulation can be a very exciting part of lesbian lovemaking. It is a great way to explore your partner’s vagina and clitoris, and it can also help you find orgasm. You can also use it to enhance oral sex.
Some people enjoy this alone or with a partner, and it can be used as an appetizer before penetration. It can also be used in conjunction with masturbation to improve orgasms.
For example, you can use a g-spot stimulator or a strap-on to stimulate the anus and clitoral area while you finger yourself. You can also try using a pair of nipple suckers/clamps on her nipples for extra breast stimulation.
Oral Stimulation
Oral stimulation involves using the mouth and tongue to stimulate a partner’s genitals or anus. It can be performed as a form of foreplay, or during sexual intercourse. It can also be used to pleasure a partner after penetration. Both men and women can give oral sex. A condom should be worn when giving and receiving oral sex, as it can protect against sexually transmitted infections.
A common method of oral sex is called cunnilingus. To perform cunnilingus, the giver wraps their lips around her clitoris and licks, sucking and stimulating as they go. This can be combined with the Mons Veneris, in which a flat surface (such as the palm of the hand or a flat vibrating toy) is placed against the length of the clitoris and gently pressed up and down.
To add intensity, stroke the legs and bulbs of her inner clitoris, which is also known as the Venus Mound. Stroking and stroking this area of the vulva can lead to orgasm, says sex educator Goody Howard.
Masturbation
If your sex ed class skipped over the masturbation part, or you want to know more about it as a treatment for lesbian freaky, here’s what you need to know:
Masturbation is touching, stroking, or rubbing one’s genitals, breasts, inner thighs, and nipples, all of which are considered “erogenous zones” (the parts of your body that are most likely to get you aroused). It’s a safe way to explore sexual pleasure, and can help you discover your own comfort zones.
Some people feel ashamed or embarrassed about masturbation, partly because of out-dated myths. But it’s a normal behavior that most people do at some point. It’s also a good way to learn how to control your orgasms, and can be helpful for those who have trouble reaching or maintaining them. Plus, it’s a great stress buster and can help you sleep better at night. But it can become addictive, and can lead to other problems if used as a coping mechanism.
Mutual Stimulation
If you’re not quite ready to jump right into penetrative sex, or if it just isn’t what you’re in the mood for today, there are plenty of other ways to get off and connect with your partner. Mutual masturbation is one way to add a bit of kink, increase intimacy and trust, and even learn more about your partner’s preferences in a safe and controlled environment.
This paired solo play can happen in the same room, via video or phone (perfect for long-distance partners), or even just in the comfort of your own home. For an extra kinky twist, try adding some blindfolds to the mix, suggests queer sex therapist Veronica Chin Hing-Michaluk.
Despite the shaming and puritanical narratives that can surround masturbation, it’s an incredibly valid and safe form of self-lovin’, says Herzog. “It’s a pleasure-seeking behavior that can provide an outlet for the same euphoria you can get from sex and can be used to fulfill other sexual fantasies like role-playing or threesomes,” she notes.
